A lot of nights were
spent apart with John sleeping on the couch...
or in the spare room.
Small things turned to silly arguments which quickly became bigger issues.
Tension, arguing and shouting had become normal occurrences.
Both John & Kim were desperately seeking to be cherished and loved, neither felt like they were getting the love they badly desired
The more that they tried to express this to each other the less they felt it and the distance between them just increased... more and more.
Everything they had tried to remedy their marriage in the form of counseling and self-help literature had done NOTHING to help them.
A drastic change was needed in their relationship but neither knew how to achieve that.
Their relationship was stuck in a serious and harmful rut and neither could see the way to fix it.
I am not about to sit here and say I was able to undo years of old, painful arguments and resentment in one single day, because that is certainly not the case...
BUT
what I shared with this desperate couple that day, prompted them to instantly press pause on the divorce.